Should You Tell Your Co-Workers Your Business?

Hey Ladies,

Let us know if you are comfortable telling your business to co-workers. If so, how do you determine who to talk to and who not to share your biz with? Do you think that your information is really confidential.

Check out my video opinion.

On the Job Talk!

Let us know how much of your business should you share with your co-workers.

Get out of Your Own Way!

I don’t know how many times I have made excuses as to why I didn’t get things accomplished that I knew needed to be done. I also feel as if I would achieve more if I just got out of my own way, stopped procrastinating, and started taking some things more seriously; in other words, prioritizing.

You, too, may be able to relate with my experiences. I am constantly reminding all of you to ask yourselves, “Why am I not where I want to be?” I encounter too many people who have not progressed to the next level in their personal or professional lives due to blaming other people or situations.

We all need to start taking ourselves, our lives, our finances and our businesses more seriously. We can’t do that if we are still thinking in terms of what somebody can do for us or what someone else did to prevent us from making things happen. Instead, vow to make a plan that includes a list of everything that you will do to get out of your own way!

Don’t Fall Through the ‘Net

Networking is one thing, but if you do not successfully leverage your networks your contacts won’t matter. You need to do more than just collect business cards. Before attending any event, you need to find out what type of people will be there and what the mission is of the sponsoring organization.

Before you step out the door, determine what you would like to get out of your interactions at this event. You also need to determine what you bring to the table that will be of value to the people that you would like to meet. Tip: Write a description of the person on the back of their business card.

Follow-up with these contacts a few days after you have met. Refresh their memory about some of the things that you discussed and then invite them out for coffee. Remember, before you ask them for anything, you should use this time to get a better idea of who they are and where they are coming from. In other words…are they worth your time?

When was the last time that you invited some one out for a business lunch, or cup of coffee?

Be Well, My Sisters

Being physically healthy is not necessarily the same as being well. A woman’s personal well-being impacts all aspects of her life. Being in good health also includes your state of mind, how you view yourself, and your feeling of self-worth.

We are a nation of people in search of. In search of what, you might ask? In search of whatever it will take to make us believe we are whole. We have all heard or told ourselves the lies that keep us in the bondage and prevent us from feeling complete. “If I lose weight, I would like myself better.” “If I had more money, I would be happier.” Oh, and of course, “If I had a man, I would be satisfied.”

Instead of harping on the things you don’t have, you should thank God for some of things you have been blessed with. Make it a daily practice to note the things you appreciate about your life. If you need a reminder of how blessed you are, remember when situations were worse. Reminiscence about how you made it through a storm you thought would never end.

One day, I was watching a television show that featured the most extravagant home I have ever seen. The woman of the house being interviewed said her husband, who had amassed the fortune that supported her opulent lifestyle, had committed suicide. Suicide?.How could someone with all of that money commit suicide?

The show made me reflect on all the talk shows I had watched where rich celebrities confessed to their use of drugs, alcohol, and whatever else they could get their hands on. I heard their disorders were referred to as simply, “The problems of the privileged.” These people had all of the frills of success and still felt incomplete. They had what many people spend too much time envying and worshiping.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with acquiring rewards for our labor, but we must ask ourselves what is enough. What will it take for us to be happy, and what are we willing to do and/or sacrifice to acquire it?

I once posed the following question to several women during an interview: “What are some of the biggest financial mistakes you have ever made?” All of the respondents stated their financial disasters resulted from making purchases driven by their need to establish a certain image in the eyes of people that they wanted to impress. All of my respondents ended up far more miserable than they were prior to being motivated by the desperate attempt to live up to other people’s expectations.

If you think none of this has anything to do with being physically well, I beg to differ. A dysfunctional frame of mind that distorts your decision making should be given the same attention as aches and pains that are obvious signs of illness.

Stop doing things that aren’t really working for you. If something or somebody is chipping away at your soul, release them. If too many burdens have taken a toll on your spirit, address them once and for all. Learn how to say “NO” and alleviate the guilt and anxiety that comes from being afraid of offending someone. Learn how to live with decisions that may be unfavorable to other people who simply benefit from your insecurities and vulnerabilities.

Some of you may need some guidance from a professional in achieving your goal of wellness. Don’t confuse asking for help as a sign of weakness. It is actually a display of empowerment. Make wellness a priority. If you do, you will see a significant change in the quality of your life.